Giving A Woman Pleasure Is Easy!
How To Make A Woman Orgasm!
If you want your woman to reach orgasm easily, then you need to watch the video below.
This video will show you the basic steps towards giving her an orgasm more powerful than anything she’s ever experienced before.
Discover How To Make A Woman Come More Powerfully Than Ever Before!
This is the most exciting, most amazing sex technique, and it has the power to transform your sex life for ever!
Simply click on the link to see a video which reveals how you can give any woman the most powerful gushing orgasms easily and quickly whenever you desire!
Or if you want to explore female ejaculation, you can watch the video below for more information on female orgasm.
Video On How To Help A Woman Achieve Orgasm
And Here’s A Bit Of Fun – How To Fake An Orgasm Video – “Advice” For Women
We know why so few women come!
Knowing How To Give A Woman Pleasure Is Vital!
Believe it or not, about 10% of all women have never had an orgasm during either masturbation or intercourse – an amazing statistic.
But happily, it is possible for a woman to learn how to have orgasms, and for a man to learn how to give a woman an orgasm. And that is what this website is all about.
If you’re a woman, and you don’t know how to have an orgasm, read on below.
The first step is to understand exactly how the female body behaves on the way to orgasm.
You see, there’s a blend of tension and relaxation during sexual arousal for a woman, and this blend helps her to achieve an orgasm.
You often read that an orgasm releases lost of bodily tension which builds up during sexual arousal.
That’s true, but a woman also needs to know how to balance muscular tension with adequate relaxation.
And sometimes the relaxation is more about her mental attitude than her physical state.
Step 1: Tense Up
It’s a mistake to think that you should just lie there whilst your partner (or you yourself) plays with your clitoris until you reach a natural climax!
In fact, if you are pre-orgasmic you may find that a fair amount of tension in the muscles of your legs, abdomen and even your buttocks can help you to come more quickly.
It’s also true that tensing the muscles of your lower pelvis and around your genitals can help give you an orgasm.
These are the muscles that you’d use to stop the flow of urine as you are peeing, and conscious, deliberate contraction of those muscles – Kegel exercises – can strengthen the muscles of the bladder, pelvis and vagina.
Video About Kegel Exercises
The connection between tension in these muscles and reaching orgasm is as follows: tensing these muscles increases your sexual arousal by stimulating the genitals, both with extra blood flow and with the muscular tension itself.
Many women who masturbate by squeezing their thighs together find later in life that they are so conditioned to this method of reaching orgasm that they cannot do so in any other way! (Although you can always learn how to come quickly in other ways. By asking your man to learn how to give you an orgasm, perhaps!)
Step 2: Relax
To be fully able to get to orgasm, a woman needs to be relaxed, confident and happy that she’s safe, with a partner who she desires and loves, and with whom she really wants to have sex.
She may also need to feel emotionally connected to him.
One of the best things that a man can offer a woman when he is trying to give a woman an orgasm is the reassurance that she can lie back, relax, and enjoy his attention free of anxiety, while he gives her the space in which she can relax into her orgasm mentally.
A woman can also repeat positive affirmations such as, “I can take all the time I want and I will have a powerful orgasm. And if I don’t it doesn’t matter because I can just relax and enjoy all the sensations.”
This kind of positive self-talk can be very helpful in reassuring a woman that she’s actually in a place where she can take the time and relax enough to fully enter into her sexual pleasure.
She can also visualize images such as this: for example, lying in a field in the sunshine with the sensuous sunny warmth streaming over her body and stimulating her clitoris and breasts.
Each woman can experiment with visualization and see what arouses her most.
There’s no doubt that fantasy can be really helpful in increasing a woman’s arousal sufficiently for her to reach orgasm more easily.
Having said that, the disadvantage of fantasy is that it takes a woman away from her partner and also from the connection with him.
So, in summary therefore, the method is to tense the muscles in your body in a way that makes you feel more aroused while you simultaneously relax your mind and become open to the possibility of moving into orgasm.
For many women the barrier is a point just before orgasm where instead of relaxing into the orgasm and letting it flow through them, they tense up and stop it happening. This is the experience a woman may often have: to be on the verge of orgasm and then to feel it slip away from her.
I Can’t Reach Orgasm !
What if you really can’t reach orgasm despite all the advice on this website?
Start by seeing a doctor, in case you are on medication that is interfering with your orgasmic response.
Also, there is an FDA approved device called an Eros which increases blood flow to the genitals – but it’s only available on prescription. However, it can certainly help some women to get an orgasm.
There is also a variety of creams, lotions and potions on the Internet, offered by websites of greater or lesser honesty. Whether you try these are not is entirely up to you but exercise a great deal of caution. If these compounds are made in overseas factories, the conditions may be far from hygienic.
And even assuming that they are made in decent conditions, there is no way of knowing if the active ingredients claimed on the label are actually in the product or whether they work or not.
The fact is that over 90% of the difficulties women have in learning how to have an orgasm stem from psychological issues, which is fantastic because it means that you can learn to be orgasmic comparatively easily.
Consider the following questions if you are anorgasmic:
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What is there about your relationship that’s stopping you from achieving orgasm?
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Do you have some kind of performance anxiety?
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Do you feel that you’re not good enough?
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Or is it a much more fundamental issue that you don’t really want to be having sex with that particular person?
Spend a little time thinking about all these issues and you may well come up with some surprising answers that help you to establish just why you’re having trouble coming (also known as “cumming”) during sex.
If you’re anxious or stressed or you feel any time pressure while you’re having sex with your partner, you may not experience an orgasm very easily.
Such things as time pressure and anxiety distance you from your sexual arousal and inhibit the development of the relaxed state of mind that’s necessary for an orgasm — and may make you feel tense in your body. In particular, you can’t achieve the mental relaxation that is necessary for you to enjoy opening out into orgasm.
Self-talk which is critical definitely will prevent you from reaching orgasm.
This includes questions that you address yourself such as “Am I doing this right? Am I going to have an orgasm? What does he think of my body?”
To overcome this level of self-consciousness takes sexual confidence and experience, plus a reasonable level of self-esteem.
So, if this kind of issue is affecting you, you might want to try some kind of psychotherapy at a more general level to help you feel better about yourself.
Having said that, many women grow into their sexual selves and become much more confident sexually as they get more experience: the question is whether or not you want to wait for that to happen naturally or to speed up the process by getting some kind of therapeutic input. This might centre on the lover archetype. If you aren’t familiar with the concept of archetypes, it is well worth reading up about them. The idea of archetypes came form the work of Carl Jung, who described the human personality as a series of building blocks, all necessary for complete and mature emotionality, but often present only in partially developed form. You can read about the concept of archetypes in general here.
The Lover archetype is a particular sub-personality associated with our ability to connect with others in a healthy way. This covers many aspects of human personality, including sex and relationships. Suppose you had a weak attachment to your caregivers during childhood. If so, it may well be that your ability to connect with others is compromised. And if that is true, then it is likely your capacity to fully engage in sexual activities with a relaxed and fearless attitude will be compromised too. Those who work with the archetypal model of human personality would say that the lover archetype inside you is compromised.
A good place to improve your sexual pleasure in bed is to start with the information on how to have an orgasm on this website.
And also, please make sure you can ask your partner for what you want. Men have a straightforward response to sexual stimulation – they are aroused, they get an orgasm easily (usually*), they feel good and then sleep……..
Yes, of course I’m exaggerating slightly, but you probably know what I mean! A woman’s orgasmic response is much more susceptible to disruption than a man’s, and he may not understand this while trying to give his partner an orgasm. You can read about the key to mutual satisfaction here.
Unfortunately, it is often challenging for a man to move from his own frame of reference about achieving orgasm into his partner’s, so tact, diplomacy, and open and honest communication are essential.
*Cases of delayed ejaculation are the exception.
Interesting facts about female sexual pleasure
1 Almost all women require clitoral stimulation before they have an orgasm.
It’s true that many women find vaginal stimulation to be arousing and very pleasant, but I think most women also require clitoral stimulation to tip them over into the actual experience of orgasm.
This is true whether or not they rub their clitorises directly with hand or finger or a sex toy or they use friction against a pillow or some other object.
2 A man may be able to give a woman an orgasm during intercourse if he first arouses her right to the edge of orgasm before he enters her and then continues stimulating her clitoris as they make love. This way, she may have an orgasm as he enjoys thrusting in her vagina.
The truth is, of course, that as soon as she starts to orgasm he’s likely to ejaculate immediately because it’s an extremely powerful and exciting experience for him.
There’s nothing wrong with this, but it can mean that he loses the ability or desire to develop greater ejaculatory control, and this in turn may deprive her of a significant amount of sexual pleasure derived from the friction of his penis on her G spot.
3 Between a third and a half of women say they don’t orgasm often enough or they are not satisfied with the quality of their orgasm.
Most of these problems are caused by “performance anxiety”, about not achieving the right balance between physical tension, sexual arousal, and mental relaxation and openness.
4 A whopping 33 to 50% of women experience orgasm infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach orgasm.
5 Apparently between 10 and 15% of American women have never had an orgasm either during masturbation or with a sex partner.
This seems incredible, in what’s supposed to be an enlightened era of sexual knowledge. I’m not sure I believe it, but clearly a significant number of women don’t enjoy regular orgasm.
It’s up to every woman to take charge of her sexual destiny and make sure that she can get as many orgasms as she wishes. A supportive partner can be very helpful here if he knows how to give a woman an orgasm.
However, becoming fully orgasmic is often a process of self-discovery on a much wider front, and all the tools and techniques you need to do this are described in detail on this website.
More to the point, learning to reach orgasm can be great fun – it’s a wonderful journey when you discover your body’s potential for pleasure and is really enjoyable – particularly if you’ve experienced shame around issues of sexuality in the past.
6 The main reasons women cannot achieve orgasm include ignorance about their own bodies and sexuality, and fear or anxiety around sex, guilt around sex, and, last but not least, fear of letting go.