G Spot Techniques To Help A Woman Orgasm
First of all, remember that while you as a man may be very penis-centred, it’s quite probable that for a woman, the most stimulating and exciting things she can have in her vagina are either your tongue or your fingers.
Although it may be psychologically exciting for a woman to be penetrated, she most likely will not reach orgasm that way. So the real reason to use a finger rather than a penis to bring a woman to orgasm by stimulating her G spot is practical. It may take a long time and most men ejaculate far too soon if they are using their penis! And when a man ejaculates, that usually means sex is over…
Trying to make a woman come by means of intercourse alone usually does not work. When you thrust into her with your penis, you may simply come too soon. You may not be able to continue thrusting for long enough to provide enough stimulation to her G spot to allow a woman to reach orgasm in this way.
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And sadly, no matter what you might think about your ability as a lover, the truth is that giving pleasure to a woman is absolutely essential. In other words, to make a woman come, you need to focus on what will give her the greatest sensation and the greatest pleasure.
Ask your woman what she thinks about the merits of penile and finger penetration, and you might be surprised. And if you really want to make a woman come with squirting orgasms, you’re definitely going to have to use your fingers.
Bring Her Off Elegantly
The act of penetration is a very profound emotional event for a woman. It isn’t just about having sex. Women can detach from feeling easily enough. That includes having intercourse without feeling very much at all about the man who’s thrusting into them.
But to fully engage, both emotionally and spiritually, with the woman to whom you are making love, you need to understand the meaning of penetration fully. That is when she opens both her heart and body to you. This will only happen if you are in a relationship of respect and trust.
Furthermore, if she’s opened her heart to you and is emotionally connected with you, sex will be better. This requires you to demonstrate your love to her by romantic gestures, affection, kindness and attention. All of that is the kind of foreplay which starts long before you even get into the bedroom.
But then, assuming you have that connection, there are some practical issues to consider as well: clean fingernails, hangnails removed, nails filed smooth, and plenty of lubricant available.
Penetration & Orgasm
Inserting your fingers into a woman’s vagina is a very intimate and personal act. Needless to say, you can’t have too much lubricant. So, first and foremost, make sure only to start fingering her when she is highly aroused and ready for penetration. If you need to, add plenty of extra artificial lubricant.
You know how to arouse a woman with foreplay, kissing, caressing, stroking, eye gazing, yes? Great! Use all those techniques and she should be aroused quite soon….
But even with her own natural lubricant flowing freely, it’s quite likely that you’re going to need a long period of vaginal stimulation with your finger, and quite a bit of pressure on her G spot, to make her come.
To do that safely and comfortably for her, you will need plenty of lubricant. You can use grapeseed oil, coconut oil, or some other oil-based lubricant that’s gentle and soft on her internal tissues.
How to Finger A Girl To Orgasm
If you’re sensitive to her body language it will be clear to you when your girl is really aroused and ready for penetration. Then….
Slowly put one finger inside her, well lubricated, of course. Start with one finger always – although you may think two is a better number, wait for her to agree that she wants more stimulation.
And remember also to keep your focus on your partner, not her vagina. Continue to look at her. You must communicate with her while you’re stimulating her G spot to make her come. Continue to kiss, talk, look in her eyes, and use your other hand to stroke the rest of her body.
Now, when you’re penetrating a girl with your finger, remember you are touching one of her most sensitive places. The last thing you want to do is simply poke your finger in and out! You must stimulate her G spot correctly. That’s how you can make her come with internal stimulation alone (i.e. without any additional clitoral stimulation).
You can also stimulate a deeper part of her vagina called the anterior fornix zone.
Stimulation inside her vagina can give a woman a powerful orgasm
And you will be surprised how easy it is to give a woman an orgasm if you do it the right way.
The G spot is between 1 and 3 inches inside the vagina on the front or upper wall as she lies on her back.
The texture of the G spot is almost always going to be ridged and rough until a woman’s become highly aroused.
You don’t need to be pressing precisely on a particular point when you stimulate a woman’s G spot: by inserting your finger and pressing the pad of one or two fingers up against the upper vaginal wall, you’re going to find her G spot, and you will see a change in her breathing or facial expression when you touch it.
You may need to be fairly forceful: you can start out with gentler movements and work up to more pressure as you see how she takes it…
Also remember that when stimulating the G spot, or indeed the anterior fornix zone she may stop you, because she feels like she’s going to pee.
The best way to avoid this is to have your woman urinate before you get into bed. This illusion of needing to pee comes from stimulation of the urethra which is adjacent to the vagina. If she knows her bladder is empty before you start making love, there should be no problem.
Problems!
If you give up too easily, the whole business of making a woman come is going to pass you by. So have her urinate before you start. Tell her this temporary feeling of needing to pee during your stimulation is just a feeling that will pass.
You also need to use a regular rhythm which mirrors the repeated in and out motion of penile thrusting. (As I already said, most men can’t sustain intercourse for long enough to make a woman come in this way – that’s why you’re using your fingers.)
Of course your fingers can stimulate the sensitive area of her vagina much faster and more directly than your penis could during sexual intercourse. In other words, this is an easy and reliable way to give a woman an orgasm. You can make a woman come quickly and efficiently with this technique.
If she starts to produce fluid and ejaculates, don’t freak out. This is not urine. And we’re going to look at squirting orgasms here.
Other Things To Think About
Some women report that when their G spot is stimulated they feel sensations which are unpleasant. This fact has been interpreted by some sex experts over the years to mean that sexual trauma is stored in the G spot. They suggest there is a need for a process of healing or “awakening” before a woman is able to reach orgasm easily through G spot stimulation.
Tantric sex therapy bears this out. Tantra has demonstrated that stimulation of the G spot can produce all kinds of emotional release. This release includes crying, laughing, anger, fear, sadness guilt, and shame. All of these emotions, and more, appear to be triggered by simulation of the G spot in some women.
One idea is that every sexual trauma produces some kind of body memory which is stored as a body memory in or around the G spot. This “trauma” might include something as apparently insignificant as a reluctant agreement to engage in sexual intercourse.
For men who are new to this, stimulating the G spot in their woman for the first time can produce extraordinary emotional responses. And so it’s important you don’t respond as if this emotion is directed at you, particularly if your woman’s releasing anger. It has nothing to do with you! She is simply releasing repressed emotions from her past.
This release somehow “opens” a woman’s body up to the potential of greater sexual pleasure than may be achieved through clitoral stimulation alone.
We know that the G spot is supplied by a different set of nerves to the clitoris (the pelvic nerve rather than the pudendal nerve). So perhaps stimulation of the G spot is activating a different nerve complex which feels different and indeed produces a different sexual experience for the woman.
From female orgasm facts: The vaginal orgasm involves both pudendal and pelvic nerves; the clitoral orgasm involves just the pudendal nerves (there’s more information on this aspect of sexual anatomy below).
Basically the clitoral nerve complex is supplied by the pelvic nerve, whereas the vaginal nerve supply comes from the pudendal nerve. These nerves have different functions and connect into different areas of the body. They may well be responsible for the different quality of orgasm that result from sexual stimulation of the various parts of a woman’s body.
If you’re a kind of curious type, you might be interested in finding out more and reading up on how to make a woman climax. However, as long as you and your partner are finding satisfying ways to receive sexual pleasure and you’re respecting your own sexual boundaries, there’s no problem!
Particularly if you’re enjoying orgasms on a regular basis, there’s no reason why you necessarily should want to explore these different aspects of female sexuality. That’s what I say, but some people claim that reaching high levels of sexual pleasure is an essential part of continuing your exploration of your own body and its sexual potential.